We've probably all heard the saying, "Everything happens for a reason" at some point in our lives. And, we may have cringed inwardly at the sound of this phrase, frustrated about our current situation, whether it be related to the home front, the workplace, or both.
But, what if I were to tell you that everything does, in fact, happen for a reason? Further, what if I were to tell you that everything you're going through is preparing you for what you asked for? Yes, that's correct! Let's explore an example within the workplace to test the validity of this statement.
Think for a moment about your current position. Do you have it locked in your mind's eye yet? Great! For many of you, this position is one that you previously hoped for, worked tirelessly towards, and waited patiently to receive. Now, consider all of the skills and competencies you acquired in all of your previous jobs, that helped position you for your current success. Everything you went through prepared you for what you are experiencing now, right?
Let's take a moment to consider how you may have been prepared for your current position. Preparation, you see, comes in many forms. For example, your prior experience working within a collaborative team may have positioned you for success in your current interactions with others at work. Your experience engaging with a "less than ideal" colleague in your prior place of employment equipped you with a greater sense of compassion and/or patience when working with others different than yourself. Even the tensions experienced with a former supervisor helped you navigate interactions with upper management in a much clearer and more effective way. You see?No matter the scenario, everything you've gone through has prepared you for what you asked for in the present moment.
Acceptance of this realization is quite liberating, actually. When you embrace the reality that your current experiences, whether you consider them to be favorable or unfavorable, are a vehicle for your future success, the atmosphere completely shifts! It's comforting, really, to know that there's a "method to the madness" you may currently be facing.
So, as you put one foot in front of the other and experience challenges at work or at home from this moment forward, you should know a few things ...
Know that nothing you are currently experiencing is in vain. This means that everything you are going through is for a purpose - one that is likely much greater that what you can even consider at present. Yes ... you are being prepared for something you cannot even imagine! How exciting is that?
Know that all of your experiences are uniquely designed to benefit you in the long run. Nothing and no one is "out to get you," harm you, or impact you in negative ways at home or at work. On the contrary, each of the challenges you may be facing are "for" you, literally and figuratively. Something resides in you that needs to develop, and more often than not, challenges provide an avenue for self-reflection, personal growth, and development.
Know that just as you have triumphed over circumstances in the past, you will experience victory again. Acceptance of this truth will afford you time to spend celebrating what you know the outcome will be, as opposed to lamenting the challenges you may be wrestling with in the present.
Fellow colleagues and leaders, may you wholeheartedly embrace the method to life's seeming madness! Everything you're going through is preparing you for the ____________________ (success, financial freedom, independence, flexibility, etc.) you asked for!
Mekel Harris, Ph.D., NCSP is an Associate Professor at The Chicago School of Professional Psychology – Los Angeles and a licensed psychologist in Los Angeles, CA, with expertise in health psychology. She has presented at over 25 national and international conferences throughout the past 5 years, targeting an array of health-related topics. As an avid proponent of wellness, Dr. Harris recognizes the importance of cultivating physical, emotional and spiritual balance in all areas of life and leadership.